My Love Life

Ha, i never expected myself to write this, but here it is. (sorry but no names will be written in here)
Many of my friends told me i have a very intresting life (cos i fly real planes, fly remote control helicopters and build so called amazing robots) but as for my lovelife, i believe its in a mess. i dont know but i just feel so.

Note: As i said no names will be written, of cos no pictures will be included also lah...  so this page will be a pure text page.... dun say i didnt warn you.....  i can be very lengthy when i write.....

Below are the various so called love life of mine....click the various dates for the various love "peaks" in my life....

1986-1988   Kindergarden days
1989-1994   Primary school days
1994-1998   Secondanary school days
1998-1999   6 months free time (Waiting for Polytechnic)
1999-2000   Polytechnic Year 1
2000-2001   Polytechnic Year 2
2000-2001   Polytechnic Starting of Year 2
2001-2002   Polytechnic towards the end of Year 2 and start of year 3
2002-2003   Finishing Polytechnic, Working as laboratory technician, Enlisting into army
2002-2003   Army Days Start of Year 1
2003-2003   The Start of  Feburary 2003
 

My first love was most prop in my kindergarden days. Its true. I can still remember my first kiss was also there. we held hands everyday and sat beside each other. Damn, i was only 6 then. Two years in kindergarden was fast, there isnt internet those days and chating on the phone for long hours was a ridiculous thing to do at that age. But when we "graduated" from kindergarden, i dont even have the chance to get her number (as if i knew that). So that was probably the most intresting thing that happened when i was 6 and could also be considered my very first girlfriend.


In my Primary school days, i did like another 2 girls (one Pri 2 the other Pri 5) but i never ever had the chance to go further.
I mean u expect a naive boy aged not more than 10 to do something drastic?  ok lets skip my shitty primary school life.

In secondanary school, life was a bit more intresting. i picked up modelling (plastic modelling and RC cars) and i like this girl in the class. She was very beautiful (Chio) and was a very sweet girl. It was only in secondanary 2 where i asked her to be my girlfriend but was rejected. :(  But guessed wat, we became good freinds and during sec 3, she told me something on the phone that shocked me out of my life, she said she liked me when we were in Sec 1 and she had hinted me many times but i never never took notice. And then she scolded me "u idiot" and slammed the phone.....after that day i became the laughing stock in class cos i think she told most of her female classmates what she had told me. (one of my other female classmate then told me one day that that girl was very upset cos i never never took notice of her even it was so obvious and called me stupid cos after she lost "intrest" in me where i start to take notice of her.) shrugs......

This incident occupied me a year until Chinese New Year in 1998. Every year, my dad's friend, would invite all his friends to his home for Chinese New Year dinner. It was then i got to know this gorgeous Lady where she more or less changed my life in the next few tears of my life. She was of same age of me and was my dad's friend's friend's daughter. (confusing huh??). We introduced ourselves and played card games together (did we? i cant really remember). We spent a splendid 3 hours together and i would never ever forget that night.

That year(1998) was also the year we had our O-levels examination but i have already looked forward to meet up with her again. Strange enough,  12 months was fast to go by and soon, we met , at my dad's friend's home AGAIN...Hurray. I told myself, this year i had to get her phone number by hook or by crook. We spent 4 hours together this time and i think it was fate i cant get her number ( everytime when i am about to ask her, a new topic is introduced and ......u get the picture....not to forget her younger brother that kept disturbing me). I almost stabbed myself that night, but would prefer to kill her brother instead...


Seems like we can only see each other once a year. Waiting for another 12 months was something to be done to see her. Year 2000, the millienium year where something intresting will happen. I got to know many more ladies in the new school but none of them took "her" away from my mind. Soon, it was Chinese New Year AGAIN. i anticipated the trip to dad's friend's home and wore the suit i think was the smartest in me. Waited for the whole night, she did not turn up. Whoo, wat a fantastic gift for the millenium. The return of 12 months of waiting was another 12 months of wait.

Year 2001, i did not expect less. I hope to see her again. This year, i saw her the moment i stepped into the house. I knew i had the chance again. She saw me and said Hi, i replied and we sat down together for a while asking what was her progress at school. After a little chat, it was dinner time and we parted for a moment. During dinner, I refrained from eating onions and garlic(one should know why....) and tried to eat as fast as i could so as not to waste valuable time. We met up at my friend's bedroom and she was there, playing the piano. I asked her why she was alone and the reply was simple, she didnt know anyone other than me and her family members present at the dinner. OK, thats cool, i thought. I was about to ask her number when his younger brother came in the room and "DA#@" i told myself... not again....... then her brother came to me and asked me what i m doing , i took a book and replied....reading......... i smiled at her and she smiled back at me. Her smile was so sweet..... i was literally melted inside.......... it was only after when we were alone in the room again that i gathered my guts i had and asked her number. Guessed what, i asked for her ICQ no. rather than her phone number. (okok, i m a moron but at least i got means of contacting her duh...).

Then, while looking thru a pile of books beside the piano, i saw a digital cam. I took it up and "on" it, checking that there was space , i took a short video of her while she was playing the piano ( a priceless 10.27 seconds of my "princess" which i slapped myself later cos i could have make it longer.)

That night i personally proven Einstein theory of relatively. For that valuable 2 hours we were alone but it felt like it was only 10 minutes. I cherished every moment and it was something that i will never forget. At home, i fired up my PC, connected to the net and activated ICQ. After adding her to my long list of contacts, i put her name under my piroity list. Soon, she came online and only thru ICQ that i got the real guts to ask for her phone number which i got it. (now thats getting intresting)

Unfortunately, year 2 in school was crap, and even though i had got her phone number, i didnt have much chances to call her. Reaching home 10pm everyday was kind of a shitty. But i had to ask her out. Therefore, i SMS her one day and asked her out for a movie date.... She agreed!!! After the tedious robotic competition, we scheduled on a thursday night. We met, had dinner and watched the movie. And guessed wat, with her younger brother.....!!!!!! A very lovely first date if one consider that one. So, that broke the "rule" of only seeing her once a year.
The intresting part comes cos on the day of the date, i only had 2 bucks in my wallet,kind of a shitty but in the morning, my dad wanted me to play golf with him and his friends and they betted some money, since it was a happy day for me, i played very well that morning and won the money which was later used to pay the tickets  : Þ  a problem solved without going around borrowing money.

A second date was quickly arranged before school reopens.... This time, his brother was not involved (haha). The movie was a wonderful 3 hours. (i didnt know also) and after the movie, i did something i should never regret but i regretted. i asked her to be my girlfriend but wat i intended was whether we could go further.(slipped my tongue again) She didnt say a thing but told me it was too sudden. I should have given us more time perhaps a few more dates before i "attempt" to ask her. (yes, i did scolded myself later that night for saying the wrong thing but i did cherished every moment that day)

Luckily, she did not put me into her ignore list but the bad thing was school starts and everything changed. More projects and paperwork. The same goes to her, school starts and assigment flows like an over-pressurised broken tap. Chances of going out almost reduce to zero but we still kept in contact in one way or another.

We remained good friends and till now. Probably she already got a boyfriend that is better than me (more muscle, better looks, drives a Ferrari, owns his own Bangalow, have 5 maids if not slaves to clean up his home) , but what can i do? i can only wish her the best. But more to come.........


The start of Year 2 was supposed to be a refreshing academic year. My buddies and i being extremely intrested in the River Raft competition, was called upon to build my group's second raft and this time, "joint forces" with students from Our Sister course, Product Engineering (PDE). Among the 6 students that join us, was 4 beautiful ladies, (was then known as PDE's four flowers...)  working with them on the project was extremely fun and enjoyable. But none of them came close to me.. until 2 years later (see Army days Feb 2003)

However, there was another period of time that was definately worth a mention. During Jan period, other than being intrested in River Raft, we were also involved in Robotics (Oh, did i ever mention we got a bronze award when we were in year 1??) and the in the department of Electronics (ELN) was a test of new syllabus of teaching.... Problem Based learning (PBL) was adopted and ELN selected classes were involved in the programme.

One day, while working in a general access lab, at about 9.30pm, i saw this petite lady sitting at the soldering station trying to solder some circuits....out of curiosity, i peeped at what she was doing and suddenly, she turn around and said, "would u mind help me hold this while i solder??" i said, "ok".... then she completed the job and i asked her where was she from as i never seen her in the lab before... then she told me she was from the selected classes and then she suddenly asked " Are You Chen Junming Clarence??"    i was stunned and replied reluctantly...  YES...............  Within a blink of an eye, she gave me a delighted look and say, "So, its you... i have heard of your 'BIG' name!!!"  i didnt know what to say but she was in a hurry to get home and i didnt get a chance to ask how she knew me...

It was only the next day that i found out her immediate supervisor was a lecturer i know and he did mention my name to his class for my team was probably the only people studying year 2 with real time expriences on robotics..... I also found out she was from China and to keep a long story short, we ended up helping each other's project (since i was mechanically inclined and she was electronically inclined) and we also had a few movie dates and on many occasions (in fact more than 250days) we had lunch/dinner together.... But things were a bit of a strange as she was older than me by 2 years and though we had a lot in common, she was still from China and had further study plans overseas and we did remain as very good friends in the end.....


Towards the end of Year 2  and start of year 3 was a very intresting start. I can still rememeber on 28th August, i received an email from a lady. She mentioned she was from Ngee Ann poly and after seeing my write up on robots in my website, she wanted to "consult" me on certain stuff where she met problems with. Her project was Gladiator robot which was wat my team was once the strongest.

Her problem was to design a motor controller to use for her robot. She came prepared and asked me about a particular motor controller chip which i was quite familar with. Replying her with some do and donts and sending her some already proven but outdated schematics, she actually told me that her budget is almost depleted thus asking me if i have "lobang" to get cheap ones....  Due to the fact that we had lots of those chip and not using them since we were producing a new generation of motor controllers, i told her to meet up in town and i can give her a tube free. The ulterior motive was actually to see how she look like but with an excuse of helping her in the work... hehe.... we met up and she was quite a petite lady with shoulder length hair... we both had lunch at Sim Lim Sq basement and on the same time, i showed her some of my circuit boards. I can still remember about 4pm, i walked her to the bus-stop where it was there she headed home....

As the weeks goes by, she would "report" to me her progress thru icq and soon, other than just talking about motor controllers, we were talking about the things we do and the hobbies we have.... Soon, we went out for movie dates.. dont ask me how...

Then one day, a friend of mine suddenly called me to go out for a drink, i then realised he was from the same department as her in school....therefore, i asked him about her.. Not to my suprise, he knew who was her but to my suprise, he told me she had sign-on the military as a navy specialist.

Wooo, i though... that is intresting, but if we were to go on, would that be a hinderance?? i havent got a clue myself but i m sure to have a girlfriend in the navy will be something special.

Dec 2001, i went to Hongkong for a short trip and on the way back, i bought her a Mashimaro keychain. In return, she gave me a bottle of mini colonge and well, it was a technically a first gift by a lady friend of mine. I barely used it but it became a personal treasure.  :)


Anyone doing their final year would understand how stressful poly year 3 can be. Other than closely packed datelines, the additional final year project plus multiple mini projects will literally make people die. Besides daily school work, my involvement in robotics took most of my weekends off thus there wasnt much time i could go out. The same went to the "future navy specialist" but it was one day where a SMS from her shocked me. The message goes like this, "Wei, Answer me seriously, do you love mee??"

Anyone who encounter this situation would either have a tough time thinking what to answer or just simply answer Yes or No.
My situation was the former as i didnt know if the relationship will last as it was too sudden. I ended up telling her what i had in my life and it would be better if we understand each other better first. She replied and quoted, did you read the whole message??

Confused, i looked at the message again. it says this, "Wei, Answer me seriously, do you love mee??"    followed by "Answer me seriously..." IN THE NEXT LINE, followed by "nervous?" IN THE NEXT LINE, followed by "No meh?? k lah, how about beehoon? ;P " ........... i sat on the couch staring at my handphone cursing and swearing only to blame myself.

When i told her wat happened, she replied me with a  " :) ".

Then on April 1st (Aprils's fool) , i came up with an idea to tease her, i SMSed her the following, " I know its kind of sudden, but will you marry me??   about 2 minutes later, she replied, " its too sudden, we arent even steady yet, i cant make the decision"   Realising that she did not take it as a joke got me worried, i told her to look at the date and she replied " How can u do this to me??  this is too much.....  OOps.....she ignored me for 2 days before understanding that it was a "revenge" i took on her....
 


We still met up now and then before the final exams came. When we finally received the result that we have passed our exams, we were too happy to say anything. But there marks the start of what i had always fear of..... her enlistment to the navy in june. While my enlistment date is a late mid august, this means, there is a lot of time/weekends that i will not see her.

Then came my few days before 20th birthday. She asked me out for dinner on a saturday and she gave me a present. Wooo... thats technically my first birthday present for the past 5-6 years. It was a white wallet that i was reluctant to use. I still have it till today.. NIB....

Some cool things to highlight was that my first bookout day was spent with her. (I m giving too much clues here :) ) I wanted to hold her hands but was too scared (shy perhaps) that i kept my hands on my side. Probably that was the greatest mistake as for some reason, 3 weeks later, she suddenly message me with "I have a boyfriend in Navy". At that time, i just book in into camp, i can still remmeber its a sunday evening. I was so depressed i couldnt sleep that night.

However, i somehow understood what happened and didnt really found out what exactly happened. I guessed her had her reasons for doing that and i respected her decision.


During Army days can be a very sad exprience. Other than learning how to protect the country, the sad thing is many of us actually loses their girlfriends. I dont know if it had to do with the female counterpart but one thing can be sure, many of the guys in here didnt really want that to happen but was forced to break off without much choice. Most of their girlfriends actually got attached with new guys out there and its them whom initiate the break-up. Sad huh?? No choice, we are wearing green and have a country to defend.

January 2003 was quite a good start as i was happily attending my Driver Class 4 course in Army. Something i really like to do in army and enjoyed it very much.  Everything went allright until one morning (Saturday), while reading the newspaper, i read about this incident about a Singapore navy vessel (RSN Courageous) that had an accident while patrolling at South China Sea. The first thing that came to my mind was her... In case u didnt know who was her, i might wanna read this first.
Ok, thats bad, 4 missing, all female... is she one of them?? The news had very little info on who the 4 female sailors were. However, the immediate thing i did was to give a message to her.

Back to camp, i continued my training on the military vehicle and due to the stressful enviroment, i forgot that she hadnt reply.
That afternoon itself was a busy one as i met up with a friend to get a design done for a robot.

That evening, i was "summoned" by mum to pick her back from town. On the way home, mum suddenly asked if i knew about the navy vessel colliding into the cargo ship. Sweat came from my forehead immediately. Why hasnt she replied me yet?? It will usually take her only 5 minutes to reply but its been more than 12 hours and i havent received a single msg from her. I step it on and arrived home shortly and i called her almost immediately i got the vehicle parked. The line engaged. I tried four times., all engaged. Called her home and her "Ah Beng" brother gave me useless info before slamming the phone twice.... What could have happened to her?? That night i couldnt sleep well.

The next day, i woke up at 7.25am as i got an appointment with a friend to check out a place down at sembawang. Boarding his car, he threw me a set of straits times and said, "had a good look at that wreckage" disgusted at the picture, i told him what happened and my buddy actually joked with me, "Hey, did she called u last night, beside your bed??"  I almost gave him a punch if he hadnt been my good friend. Telling him that the joke wasnt really funny for me, he told me she would call me if she is alive....  Yeah Right....

In the afternoon, about 12.15, i called again and this time it went thru but it wasnt answered. I gave a second try and finally, she answered. Thank God she is alive and we had a short chat before she had to do her duties. Meanwhile, i did find out that its her collegue/friend that passed away and she knew all the 4 of them. At that point of time i called, she was on another ship and was out at sea... no wonder she couldnt reply.

Well, we did had a dinner date few days later but that didnt really change things much and i believed her current life is more suited for her. It took me 2 weeks to overcome that fear of losing her but it also gave me the feeling of what it was like losing a loved one.


Remember i did mention above "But none of them came close to me.. until 2 years later (see Army days)"??  below was what happened.

Feburary 2003, i have completed my driver's course and it would be the following week that i will go to my new camp. I had 3 days in camp that i would be classified as T-list (Temporary list) and basically we just had to report to camp and stay there the whole day doing nothing. Friday Feb 14, second day of my T-list life, was Valentine's day and as i usually will do, i sent a happy valentine's day message to all my female friends.

About 9am, of the 50 messages i sent, i received 10 replies. All ten replies greeted me back and only 2 asked me to spend the time properly with my love one. I replied with a simple dont have one and asked them how they were to spend their evening. One replied with a friend while the other mention she hasnt got a clue.

Testing my luck, i asked her, "how about dinner tonight??" She replied humourously, "Ooi, i got a date from you!! i let u know later!!"   She later SMSed me asking me and 2 of her other female friends for dinner.  I said ok and we were to meet at 6 in the evening. However, about 3pm, she told me that 2 of her collegues were joining us, so ended up 3 gals and 2 guys. 5++ in the evening, i received a call from my 2 of my poly buddy, "hey, lets have dinner together" replying that i had a "date" i told him to join me instead. So the date ended up being a group party with 3 gals and 4 guys.

A week later, in my new camp, i found out that i had many friends which were already there. One of them happen to be a good friend of mine whom knew the lady i went out with on Valentine's day. Approaching the weekend, he asked me to date her out. So for some reason it became a group meeting again, me, my campmate/friend , she and her former classmate(someone whom we know also)

Its kind of strange cos i never really took much notice of her (thought i did intend to ask her out before but thats another story)  when we were in poly however, she looked so good during the last 2 dates.

I wanted to see her more often. As i found out her workplace was actually very near my camp (5mins drive), i dated her one day (Tuesday) and gave the excuse tat i forgot to pay for the food during the last trip. That was simple. A drive to her workplace, pick her up and we are heading for dinner. We chat a lot on the way and found out she owns a dog too. Thats too great and on the way sending her home, we stop by a pet shop where we took a pack of dog biscuit each.

Reaching her place, she bought her dog down. Its was a cute little dog but it was chubby (like his owner...oops). Immediately i gave him a name called "walking pillow". She gave me that "angry smile" and "walking pillow" completed his business.... Well, i realised i had an urge to do my business and she was kind enuff to allow me to release my weight at her place. (Oh wat an excuse u might think) Her room was very tidy unlike mine (Yes i know usually a room that belongs to a lady will be tidy) but more importantly, it was the first time i was alone with a lady in her home and viewing her room. (Dont worry as we did nothing.. wat a waste u might think)

I had the whole week thinking. Am i starting to like her?? Or am i taking her as a replacement for the former lady whom i loved?? I couldnt answer the question myself.
 
 
 

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